“I’m moving to a new condo and I want to do everything I can to set up my new space for a new life. I want my new place to feel great. And, I really want to attract a good love partner into my life.”
Not surprisingly, wanting help with love is one of the most common reasons people seek a Feng Shui consultation. Such was the case for Lisa. A successful, attractive woman in her mid-40s, Lisa had had a string of relationships that ranged from unsatisfying to unhealthy. Recognizing that the quality of her relationships reflected her own unresolved emotional wellbeing, Lisa had worked hard for several years on gaining clarity around her issues, healing wounds, and building healthy self-love. When she contacted me, Lisa felt ready to move forward into a whole new phase of her life.
As a Feng Shui consultant, my role was to help Lisa see and understand the ways in which her home was or wasn’t energetically aligned with the direction she wanted to go with her life. The first step was to help Lisa become aware of the energetic relationship between herself and her home. Based on what we discovered, we would explore changes she could make that would attract and enhance energy aligned with her current self-image, and, from that place, support her desire to attract a good romantic partner.
Concepts of mirroring, metaphor, and intention are among the many tools that Feng Shui uses for working with energy. Using mirroring we can perceive the ways in which our spaces mirror our lives and our lives reflect our spaces. Feng Shui also uses a language of metaphors. Mirroring often is expressed metaphorically. These metaphors reveal correlations between our living spaces and various aspects of our lives. As often happens in close relationships, with familiarity comes the tendency not to see what is right before our eyes. The awareness to see these mirroring and metaphor dynamics is one of the ways the “lens” of Feng Shui can be very “eye opening”.
As we walked around her apartment, the conversation between Lisa and her home was revealed in a variety of ways. On a daily basis, Lisa was receiving messages from her home, many of which were not in sync with her intentions. It’s not that her home was trying to impede her. (On the contrary, our homes want to help and support us; that is their purpose.) It was simply that Lisa was unaware of the significance of images and objects in her home that mirrored her past and her subconscious. The “silent” metaphoric messages she was receiving were not energetically aligned with and supportive of the new life she consciously wanted to build for herself.
Often one of the strongest voices in the conversation between a person and their living spaces is the art with which they choose to live. It is the nature of art to carry literal or metaphorical messages and energy. Throughout Lisa’s apartment were many prints of colorful beach chairs on sunny beaches. Even her shower curtain was decorated with a pattern of beach chairs. What could be wrong with such cheerful images? The problem was that these images each showed a single beach chair. Although the chairs were in idyllic settings, every chair was alone and empty. Metaphorically, all these images were reinforcing to Lisa a view of herself as a single woman who had to find enjoyment on her own. This was the picture that Lisa felt ready to change. Lisa’s stated intention was to attract a vibrant love partnership into her life. However, the multiple images she looked at everyday were mirroring her past life and metaphorically reinforcing a self-identity that she was ready to move beyond.
I recommended to Lisa that she get rid of (let go of) all the single beach chair images, and bring into her home new artwork that was aligned with her current goals and the future life she wanted to build. I encouraged her to include in new artwork images of pairs of things. If she still enjoyed beach chairs, then go with artwork showing two chairs side-by-side facing the same direction. For the wall directly across from the foot of her bed, which is called a “vision wall”, I suggested that she look for a very special image that she felt particularly supported, through its imagery and energy, her intention for her future. This piece would serve her best if its imagery included a pair of something she loved, a quality of unity or completion, and a common direction.
In keeping with her commitment to her personal growth and vision for the future, Lisa followed up. Empowered with new awareness, she thoughtfully changed the art in her home. She was especially excited about the new painting of two vibrant trees entwined over a path she selected for her bedroom vision wall. This and other new artwork, along with specific adjustments to choice and placement of key furniture pieces, were aligned with her current self-image and vision for her future. Lisa engaged with new, heightened awareness with her conversation with her home. The changes Lisa made in her home effectively shifted the energy and the metaphorical messages from challenging to supportive. As she lived within this positive energy, Lisa’s self-love was affirmed daily and was able to support her vision for her future. Within a few months, Lisa met and was happily sharing love with a wonderful man. According to her, he is the best romantic partner of her life.
One of my greatest joys as a Feng Shui consultant is to help people see their living spaces, and therefore their lives, with fresh eyes. The Feng Shui tools of mirroring and metaphor can enable us to become aware of, and actively and lovingly engaged in a reciprocal conversation with the spaces in which we live. Feng Shui makes it possible to create living spaces full of positive energy aligned with our intentions. Through the gift of compassionate awareness, the conversation with our living space can be rich with messages that support the positive changes we want to make in our lives.